Posted by: k | February 7, 2008

Something I learnt today…

For a change, we actually had a serious conversation at work today. I’m not saying that we’re always joking around, but we discussed a couple of things that are a bit out there.

One of the girls at work today announced that she’s 14 weeks pregnant, which is awesome. We got to see the ultrasound pics, and it was cool. One of my friends got clucky because she and her husband are planning on starting a family soon. I felt a bit clucky too, which scared the crap out of me to be honest… I’m so not ready to have kids!

Anyway, a couple of minutes after the announcement, someone asked if the gender of the baby was known yet. The Indian woman who’s currently temping for us looked stunned, and asked if it was legal for parents-to-be to find out the gender of the baby before birth.

I thought it was a weird question – of course it’s legal! You have the option of finding out whether you’re having a boy or a girl when you go for an ultrasound. You can keep it a surprise if you like, but if you want to know, you can.

After a couple of weird looks, she went on to explain that in India it’s illegal to find out the gender of your unborn child, because of the death rates for baby girls. People want to have boys because they will bring money to the family when they marry, whereas if you have a girl, it costs the family money and property to marry her off.

I knew there is a similar situation in China, where there is a law of one child per family because of the population, but India never crossed my mind.

Then we went on to talk about honour killings, and a couple of other topics, before there was silence.

Conversations like these make me realise just how lucky we are…



  1. we are lucky.. You hear stories and things from the Middle East about how women are treated… and it’s awful. I couldn’t imagine living like that. It certainly makes you appreciate what you’ve got, and just how lucky we are.
    and you just reminded me… my sister is expecting practically and day now, and she’s known what she’s having all along, and hasn’t told anyone.
    GRR. It’s not really that I want to know, it’s that I hate that she knows and hasn’t said anything to anyone.

  2. Yes, we are lucky and we have to remember that. I didn’t know about India either – that’s a bit scary that something like that is still happening today.

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